The soul hurts and pulls to the person. Energy interaction of people

Greetings, my dear readers! Have you ever wondered what is the main principle by which you choose a person for your relationship? Is it just a hobby, strong feelings or a subconscious search for a mother / father image? Today I propose to talk about why you are attracted to a certain person. Is it worth it to surrender to this feeling or do you need to think so as not to destroy the existing happiness?

New emotions

What is attraction to a person? The desire to constantly be near, to hear a voice, to smell, a feeling of impossibility without it. Such feelings can be both momentary and quickly passing, and long, lasting for several years.

Sometimes I just met a stranger and all my thoughts are only about him. He seems so mysterious and interesting. Communication is filled with flirting and play. You immerse yourself in it completely and completely, and there is no other world. All the past is left behind.

Something new and unknown always attracts a person. Especially against the background of the routine and dullness of life. So, one of my clients, having been married for a long time, met a man at a party. They just talked, but he left a mark on her soul.

She described how wonderful he was, how much different from her husband, that he was completely different and she could not live without him. As a result, she left her husband, and after a while the new gentleman turned out to be the same ordinary and worthless comrade.

A person is drawn to the riddle, to the unknown. And upon closer examination, everything seems different, not so fabulous and beautiful. Everything new captivates and pulls along. And it is very cool when something strong and eternal is born from this situation. I have a huge number of examples when a new and bright feeling appeared in a person's life, developing into strong love for many years.

And sometimes you just like a person, it’s good and fun to spend time with him, you don’t think about anything, and then you realize that you are very attracted to him. You can't imagine your evening without an SMS or a call, every moment you want to know what a person is doing.

If you cannot understand your feelings, are not sure about something or doubt, then I have an excellent article in store for you, which will help you to understand everything once or twice: "".

Together we will analyze the problem and find the most acceptable solution.

Draws to the past

But we are drawn not only to something new and unknown. It happens that the image of a former lover cannot get out of my head. The relationship could have ended several years ago, but it still continues to pull towards the person.

When the relationship has been long, then this turn of events is not surprising. You just have a lot in common, you have given so much to each other that it seems impossible to live without him. We constantly talked, had mutual friends and acquaintances, you had a common life, joint plans. This all haunts even after a few years.

A person can cling to the past because he does not see his future. Or afraid of the unknown. He does not believe that he will be able to trust another person, it seems that new good relationships cannot be built. Therefore, it firmly clings to the past and this notorious attraction appears.

If you have just such a case and you still cannot break with your past, then read the article "". Even if your attraction is not for first love, the article will help you deal with your feelings for the past and you will surely find the answer to the question - how to forget a person and live on?

What to do about it

If you are a free person, then calmly surrender to this wonderful feeling. Passion and love make a person elated and inspired. It is a wonderful and liberating feeling. It is worth enjoying every moment and just being happy. Understand that life is too short to deny yourself feelings and emotions.

What if I don’t like it, but pulls? Again, if you are free, then let yourself be drawn to health. Sex, for example, is very healthy. And good sex, in general, can even cure a headache.

Another question, if you are not free, you already have a relationship, but you are drawn to a completely different person. It is worth stopping here and thinking seriously. Because a rash and quick decision can greatly change both your life and others.

Try to understand what this new attraction means. Maybe you are looking for something new and invigorating? If so, stop and think about how you can achieve these emotions with your loved one.

If this is not the first time this happens to you, you often pay attention to other people while in a relationship, then you should think about why you, in general, are in a relationship. Understand what you are missing, what you are clinging to, what you are running to. Maybe you and your partner are tormented in a relationship, but are afraid to admit it to each other? After all, in a happy couple there is no superfluous third.

If you want to build a healthy and happy relationship, then the book by Dean Delis “ The paradox of passion". In it, the issue of relationships, extinguished passion and reciprocity is highlighted in a rather extraordinary way. The author looks at many questions from a new angle, which will undoubtedly give you a lot of food for thought.

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Where do you think this attraction comes from and why to certain people? Is it more like love or light falling in love? Or is it just passion?

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Famous psychoanalysts and researchers of human nature, and great writers, and even mystics and psychics spoke about love at first sight, but there is no definite answer to the question of why one is drawn to a practically stranger to this day. Most people at least once in their life have experienced so-called love at first sight - that feeling when they are drawn to a person, when there is a strong desire to establish communication with him and get to know him as best as possible, and in the first minutes of the conversation it seems as if you are with this people understand each other perfectly and have known each other for a very long time.

The craving for a person, the desire to communicate with him and be close is a very strong emotional experience that people often confuse with true love. However, this is more like falling in love than love, since love, in addition to sympathy and attraction, implies trust, mutual understanding and respect. Nevertheless, often true love grows precisely from attraction, falling in love at first sight. But why is it attracted to a person? Why do we almost instantly fall in love with some of them, while other people leave us indifferent?

Hypotheses why attracts to a person

Psychology does not give an unambiguous answer to the question of why one is attracted to a person, however, there are several hypotheses that can explain the reason for attraction at first sight. These versions are:

1. Psychoanalytic. The essence of this theory is that we are all looking for a person similar to our first unconscious love - a father or mother. As the founder of psychoanalysis believed, it is the parent of the opposite sex (for women, the father, for men, the mother) who is a person's first love, which he experiences in early childhood. Further, a person all his life is looking for those in whom there are any features of a parent, and noticing someone whose smile, facial expressions, manners, posture, etc. remind of the object of first love, experiences a strong attraction to him.
2. Response. A person can be drawn to someone who already has love for him. Seeing in the eyes of a friend a sincere interest, tenderness and passion, a person feels loved, significant and needed, and these feelings induce him to fall in love with the answer.
3. Topographic. The name of this theory was invented by the famous American sexologist John Money, who argued that people are drawn to those who somehow remind them of a person who once left a significant mark in their souls. This theory is in many ways similar to the psychoanalytic one, however, according to it, the "standard" is not the parent, but youthful love, the first sexual partner, and even the beloved film actor or musician in childhood.
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   Physiological. Some psychologists and sexologists believe that attraction to a stranger or unfamiliar person arises due to pheromones - special substances that the human body secretes in order to attract people of the opposite sex. Pheromones are practically odorless, but they are capable of acting on certain human receptors, causing a strong one to their "source".
5. Hypnotic. Proponents of this theory believe that attraction to a stranger arises as a result of eye contact with a sympathetic person. In many animals, eye-to-eye gaze is interpreted as a challenge, and perhaps humans, too, subconsciously perceive gaze as a call to make contact or to look away and leave. If the beholder seems attractive, the person can subconsciously "submit to his call", and the brain perceives this unconscious decision as falling in love.
6. Romantic. Romantic people suffering from loneliness often dream of their future chosen one, inventing the image of an ideal "Prince Charming" or "Dream Girl" for them. And when a romantic meets a person who seems like an invented ideal, he can develop a strong attraction.
7. Mystical. Fans of magic, esotericism and are sure that those with whom we fall in love at first sight were our loved ones in past lives (reincarnations). According to this theory, if it is drawn to a person, it means that there is already a karmic connection (soul connection) with him, which must be restored in reality in order to bring to life what was not completed in a past life.

What to do if attracted to a person

If you feel a strong attraction to a stranger, you can either try to get closer to him, or force yourself not to pay attention to the feeling that has arisen. Most people believe that you still need to give a chance to love at first sight, because it is possible that this is "destiny". But if you decide either as a guy - the object of a sudden attraction, you still do not need to rush into the pool with your head, and when communicating, try to evaluate the person to whom you are drawn critically.

Falling in love at first sight is often called the illusion of love for a reason, because we fall in love rather not with another person, but with the feelings that we experience when communicating with him. We strive to be close to the one to whom we are drawn, because in his society we experience euphoria and happiness, and without him - the inability to concentrate and a strong desire to meet the object of passion. But even the strongest love does not last long - after a few weeks or months of communication, it either transforms into a deeper feeling, or disappears without a trace.

It is not so important why it is drawn to a person - the main thing is not to pin too many hopes on love at first sight and try to first get to know the object of your passion better, and then make a decision.

Throughout life, everyone at least once experienced an irresistible attraction to another person. Many people are concerned about the question, where does this feeling come from, and how to react to it correctly? Attraction may arise at the wrong time or to a stranger, and even to someone who does not cause much sympathy. To understand how to deal with this feeling, it is necessary to know the reasons why people are attracted to a person, and how the mechanisms of attraction work.

The subconscious is primarily responsible for the occurrence of attraction, so at first it is difficult for people to give an adequate answer why they are attracted to a certain person. Attraction is accompanied by a strong hormonal release, which puts the brain in a state of euphoria, love. Why is this outburst happening? The reasons can be conditionally divided into physiological and psychological.

If a girl is attracted to a domineering dominant man, most likely there was a patriarchal system in her parental family, so she is looking for a patron like a father.

If a man is attracted to a woman who is aggressive and disrespectful, then perhaps his mother was harsh and tough. In this case, the man's subconsciousness models the usual stereotype of building relationships between a man and a woman.

Attraction to a stranger is associated with a complex of attitudes that are firmly entrenched in a person's head. The brain selects the most suitable person according to these criteria, then a chemical reaction occurs. At the level of consciousness, people decide whether a given person is really suitable for them, their character, profession, goals, temperament, financial situation, etc. are taken into account.

When a person experiences stress for a long time or does not have sexual intimacy, then attraction can be formed on pure physiology, since sex is the simplest way to relieve tension and get a portion of the hormone of happiness.

Important!

Attraction and falling in love is not love. Many people confuse these concepts, since the attraction can be strong. But gradually the hormonal background returns to normal and people are no longer drawn to each other. They begin to soberly assess the situation, and another question arises: why this particular person? Some make mistakes.

If attracted to the wrong person?

Why is it attracted to a certain man or woman, if this is not the person with whom you would like to be together? When an attraction arises for a dishonest person, rude, unsure of himself, broken, it means that unconscious mechanisms are working inside you, built on complexes, fears, blocks. To stop the action of these mechanisms, it is necessary to understand for what reason and for what purpose they were launched, and to re-establish values.

If a person, more often a woman, is in a state of Sacrifice, then he will automatically look for a Tormentor. They become insecure and notorious people who need to dominate over someone in order to assert themselves. Sacrifice is the best option. To get out of this vicious circle, the Sacrifice needs to enter the position of the Author. Then she will no longer need the Tormentor.

Advice!

Do not take attraction as a sign of fate. Attraction to another person is just a small push, from which a strong wonderful feeling and strong relationship may or may not begin for years to come.

Wrong time

There are situations when people feel attracted to other people when they are already in a relationship with someone else. What if you are attracted to a person at such an inopportune time? First, find out the reason. They can be as follows:

• lack of love and emotional closeness in existing relationships;
• lack of sexual intimacy, dissatisfaction with sexual intimacy;
• destructive relationships (collapsed to the ground; the presence of inappropriate behavior on the part of the partner);
• crisis (grinding, childbirth, crisis 3 years, 7 years, 12 and 25 years of marriage);
• intrapersonal crisis (age or life, turning points in life).

Based on the reason, you decide what to do. If you decide to keep the existing relationship, then you need to work on it. You can do this alone or with a partner. It is necessary to unambiguously solve the problem before it has increased tenfold.

Behavior strategy, options for solving the problem

Possible behavior, when strongly attracted to a person, can be divided into two categories: if you want to get closer to him, and if you do not want to get closer. When nothing stops you, and you are ready to try to get closer, then consider the following tips:

• get to know the person you like better, do not rush to draw conclusions about him;
• indicate for yourself the criteria for choosing a life partner, what kind of person it should be, which you will not tolerate;
• try to establish friendships.

If you have identified a negative cause of the attraction that has arisen, then start working to eliminate this cause. Pay attention to the recommendations:

• try to distance yourself from the object of passion;
• don't get hung up on feeling;
• engage in self-development.

Is it possible that the person you are magnetically attracted to is the love of your life? Yes, it is possible. Does it have to be so? No, not required. Is the attraction going away? Yes, passion always calms down, hormones calm down, and if there is no love and acceptance in this place, then there will be emptiness.

Any relationship has different scenarios. Much depends on people: do they accept themselves and their partner, do they work on problems. Unconscious impulses play an important role in a person's life, but with the help of the mind, people can control their instincts and make informed decisions.

In the Universe, in order to maintain the spiritual and material energy balance, energy exchange takes place constantly and continuously. This energy circulation takes place within the framework of the energy conservation law.
Communication in essence is an energy exchange. The energy generated by a person is given outside. But, in accordance with the laws of conservation of energy, a person must receive energy from the outside. Hence the need to communicate.

People communicate for personal gain. During the interaction between people, an energy exchange takes place - one gives, the other receives, and vice versa. If people like each other, then an intense energy exchange takes place between them. At the same time, both experience the pleasure of communication.

Even if the two, experiencing mutual attraction, do not speak, feigning indifference, their energy fields are still drawn towards each other. As the saying goes, "I am drawn to him."

During the communication of two people, channels are formed between their auras through which energy flows flow in both directions. Streams can be of any color and take any shape (they can be seen with the ability for extrasensory perception).

Energy channels connect partners' auras through the corresponding chakras, depending on the type of communication:
Muladhara(base chakra) - relatives.
Svadhisthana(sex chakra) - lovers, married couple, friends in a fun pastime, relatives.
Manipura(navel chakra) - relatives, employees, subordinates, bosses, friends in sports and those with whom you enter into competition.
Anahata(heart chakra) - objects of emotional interaction, these are the people we love. For the harmonious development of relations between a man and a woman, it is necessary to have a channel along the sex chakra (svadhisthana).
Vishuddha(throat chakra) - like-minded people, colleagues, etc.
Ajna(frontal chakra) - imitation and adoration of an idol, a sect leader, etc. Hypnotic channels, suggestion of thoughts. Telepathic communication with another person.
Sahasrara(crown chakra) - communication only with egregors (collectives, religious communities, sects, football fans' clubs, political ideology, etc.)

The more passionate the partners are with each other, the more durable and active channels are formed.

In the course of the formation of close trusting relationships, all chakras are gradually connected by channels. It is in this way that strong relationships arise that are not subject to either distance or time. For example, a mother always feels her child, wherever he is, and no matter how many years have passed since their last meeting. It also happens that, meeting an old acquaintance after many years, a person feels as if they broke up only yesterday.

Channels can persist for a very long time - years, decades and pass from incarnation to incarnation. That is, the channels connect not only bodies, but also souls.

Healthy relationships form bright, clear, pulsating channels. In such a relationship, there is trust, closeness, sincerity and there is enough room for personal freedom. An equivalent exchange of energy takes place here, without distortions.

If the relationship is unhealthy, that is, one partner depends on the other, then the channels are heavy, stagnant, dull. Such relationships are deprived of freedom, often boiling down to mutual irritation and anger.

If one of the partners wants to completely control the other, the channels can envelop the aura from all sides.

When the relationship gradually dies, then the channels become thinner and weaker. Over time, energy stops flowing through these channels, communication stops, people become strangers.

If people leave, but the channels are still preserved, then they continue to reach out to each other. It also happens when one partner cuts off communication channels and closes off from further interaction, while the other partner is still attached to him and tries in every possible way to break through the energy protection in order to restore relations.

In the process of violent rupture of channels, separation is very painful. It takes many months or years to recover from this. Here a lot depends on how much a person is ready to accept the free will of another and to free himself from the dependence developed over time.

Most of the channels built in everyday communication disappear over time without a trace. In the case of close relationships, the channels persist for a very long time, even after parting, some channels remain. Particularly strong channels arise during sexual and family relations.

In this fragment, you will see a revealing experiment that proves the existence of energy channels between people who have been in a relationship for a long time:

Each time you have sexual intercourse with a new partner, new channels are formed along the sex chakra, connecting people for many years, or even the entire subsequent life. In this case, it does not matter at all whether the sexual partners managed to find out each other's names - the channel in the case of sexual intercourse is formed and lasts for a very long time. And if there is a channel, then there is also a circulation of energy through it. And what quality the energy comes in is hard to say, it depends on the characteristics of the other person's field. To sleep or not to sleep, and if to sleep, then with whom - it's up to you, of course. It's good when it happens consciously.

It is believed that the strongest channels are parental. But here, too, there may be options.

In people who live nearby for a long time, the energy fields (auras) adjust to each other and work in unison. Intimate relationships require synchronization of fields. Often we notice that people who have lived together for a long time become similar to each other, even outwardly.

If the characteristics of the auras of two individuals are very different, then it will be difficult for them to communicate. When energy flows alien to it invade the field, a reaction of repulsion, fear, and disgust appears. "He makes me sick."

When a person does not want to communicate with someone, then he closes his energy field, and all energy flows emanating from the other person are reflected. In this case, the other has the impression that he is not heard, as if he is talking to the wall.

During illness, the patient's energy field weakens, and he unconsciously replenishes the missing energy at the expense of the one who is nearby. This happens automatically. Healthy people feed the sick. This is part of family life: first I will help you, then you will help me. If the illness is prolonged and severe, all family members may feel the devastating effect. Over time, they will feel tired and unwilling to care for the sick. At such moments, it is very important to be able to replenish your own energy reserves. It is impossible to give all the time only to caring for the patient, it is necessary to be distracted. Hobbies, sports, creativity, communication with friends, entertainment can come to the rescue.

Negative emotions (anger, envy, jealousy, etc.) directed towards another person pierce his aura with a dark energy flow. In this case, energy leaks in favor of the aggressor. A person whose aura is polluted by imperfect thinking, dislike or despondency is unable to receive energy from outer space, and he replenishes his energy hunger at the expense of other people. This is the so-called energy vampirism.

The vampire can be active. In this case, he takes energy from another person through an active release of negativity in his direction. These are, as a rule, brawlers, conflicting people, constantly grumbling and embittered. If, in response to the malicious attack of such a person, you responded emotionally - upset, angry - then your energy flowed to him. It turns out that the main protection is calmness and ignorance.

Extremely negative interactions can cause such severe field destruction that a person will have to recover for a long time afterwards. Some of the aura's healing processes are automatic. In this case, they say: "time heals." But some wounds leave behind lifelong scars that can be carried over into future lives. People in this case tend to avoid pain and protect their wounds with energy and psychological blocks.

It remains to be said that channels can connect not only two people, channels can connect a person with an animal, plant or any inanimate object. For example, many are familiar with the feeling of longing for a place or home where important events have taken place. A person can become attached to his car, a child to his toy.

In the event of a dependence on an object, to which strong but unhealthy energy channels have stretched, such channels are usually called. Bindings block a person's free will and disrupt the energy balance. We'll talk about bindings in the next article.

Smell

Body language revelations

Body language in attraction

This increases dopamine levels and clears the path to love. Men and women are attracted to people who seem mysterious to them. It's exciting to feel like you've discovered a hidden treasure that needs to be explored. Neural patterns heighten the excitement because mysterious strangers have the fascination of the unknown, the new.

Even if a stranger is annoying, these people belong to the same social group, are equally attractive and smart, have similar values, interests, and communication skills. In this respect, one is looking for his own mirror image, which is called "assortative mating". People who are unknown but have a similar social and intellectual background have the greatest chance of falling in love. In addition, the immune system plays a role in that it must be different from, but compatible with, their own.

Eye contact

The immune system can smell, and the perfume covers it up. This is why it is important to leave without smell. From an evolutionary perspective, healthy babies can be born through the right mix of immune systems. The sweet spot: We prefer symmetrical faces and bodies and value them more attractively. In addition, the partner must be well distributed. Balanced male physicists have reproductive benefits, as they had their first intercourse on average four years ago, they have more sex partners, and are more likely to orgasm with them.

Something inexplicable

Women try to give the most symmetrical picture of themselves with makeup and make their face smoother. By the way, young people are more symmetrical than older ones. What Helen Fisher does not mention is "something definite." Why does the spark jump onto Him or Her, of course, where are there others who seem to be better suited to each other?

At one time, the founder of modern psychology, Z. Freud, tested in his own practice the assumption that a girl is subconsciously drawn to a man who resembles her own father, and young men are drawn to a girl who is similar (psychologically) to her mother.

Physical cues can be conflicting because not everything is cause and effect, and it is important for good interpretation to jointly evaluate the verbal with the non-verbal. When it comes to body language of attraction, we have to distinguish between two important factors: the position of the echo, which is when the other person takes the same position as one, and the movement of the echo, when the other person copies the movement of one.

Source: Fisher, Helen: This is the first delicate, carefree ecstasy. Men only on models and women only on well trained men? Attractiveness research is a broad area that also includes the billion dollar media, fitness and cosmetics industries. But attractiveness is not the same as beauty, above all, it also includes the basic characteristics of a person.

Together we are more beautiful, the researchers found in different experiments. First, the subjects of the study automatically rated the person in the photograph with several “real” faces on top of each other in order to be more attractive. On the other hand, the cheerleader effect, for example, means that people in a group look more attractive than looking at them individually.

At the same time, people are not able to see this similarity, but intuitively strive to find a partner that matches the parent's psychotype. No wonder, often friends note how much the bride looks like the groom's mother in her youth.

Attraction of opposites

Another idea explains the attraction by the desire to compensate for one's own shortcomings with the merits of a partner. And having met an object with the necessary qualities, a person experiences tender feelings for him, called the state of falling in love.

In this case, we will focus on a study published in The Journal of Non-Verbal Behavior that analyzed the behavior of two people who felt mutual attraction, with particular attention to the body language of both people.

If we focus on the material that was obtained for the analysis of body language, we specifically analyzed the movements of the head, shoulders, arms, arms, torso and legs.

Contrary to what has been seen in previous studies, attraction was predicted using timing patterns rather than simple body language imitation. From the results, the rhythmic structures of synchronous movements were obtained, the models of body movement that people adopted.

However, in the aforementioned studies, attention is usually paid only to the external. The appeal, however, involves much more. Karl Grammer talks about nine universal pillars of attractiveness: youth, symmetry, skin and hair condition, movement, smell, voice, height, hormonal markers, and mediocrity.

Our colleague's scent is especially important in terms of attractiveness. First, the deodorant or perfume plays a decisive role, but the body's own odor. Because every body reacts differently to stress, unhealthy diet, anxiety and other environmental influences, and the skin excretes these different substances through the pores.

Love in return

Seeing the special attention from a man to his person, a woman feels herself the most desirable and perfect for this man. There is an unconscious desire to answer him in kind, the girl is drawn to the guy. The result is a mutual feeling. The same is true in the opposite situation: a man falls in love with a lady who adores him.

As with previous studies, this study showed that it was this woman who tended to initiate and control these samples. And, of course, the more a woman became interested in a woman, the more complex the patterns of movement of her body language became. So, in conclusion, potential couples prove their compatibility non-verbally by building symphonies of body language, with women being the main drivers. Given the complexity of this description, it's pretty clear why synchronicity is never commented on in fashion magazines, although it's probably the closest thing to truth about how non-verbal attraction is discussed.

Human nature makes him attractive. The attraction, however, goes beyond Professor Grammer's nine pillars. Although we are easily impressed by the external features, it is above all the essence of the person that makes him seem attractive in general - although sometimes only at first sight. Character, humor, naturalness, charisma and are important. But a well-groomed experience and intelligence are important factors. Intelligence does not mean a classical level of education. Rather, it is an opportunity to have a stimulating and entertaining conversation that appeals to us.

It is impossible to say that this or that theory is the most correct, therefore each of them has a right to exist.

Poets called this state love at first sight, when a guy and a girl, having barely met, feel an unprecedented attraction. Scientists today are investigating this phenomenon and put forward several assumptions about the nature of such feelings.

Men and women are the difference. It has been scientifically proven that women during their fertile days are especially strong in relation to masculine attributes such as B. is attracted to a special chin - more than otherwise. In general, however, men pay more attention to the appearance of women, while for women, intelligence and status are important attractions, prof.

Attractiveness in choosing a partner. External manifestations play a role in the choice of a helper, but do not completely dominate. It is a certain thing, the character of our colleague, to which we are attracted and which we often cannot express in words. Do you know how to discern when a person is attracted to you through their body language? We are talking to you about the role that bodily expression plays in situations of involving two people.

The article discusses the most famous of them.

Why a man is attracted to a woman: biology

Smell

According to this theory, each person secretes special substances - pheromones. They are practically odorless, but they act on the olfactory receptors that send signals to the brain. He, in turn, unconsciously interprets them as an attractive scent, and the person becomes interesting as a partner.

Body language revelations

If someone knows how to read body language or is very observant, they will know that this type of communication can convey a lot of conscious and unconscious information about a person. The spoken language is much easier to control, it is more conscious, but what is associated with the body usually eludes control.

Body language in attraction

For this reason, it's important to know what body language is like between two people when one is attracted to the other, because who wouldn't want to know if the person you feel is attracted to?

Non-verbal language reveals our closest feelings, less deliberately and truthfully than verbal ones, since psychic defenses are usually not as effective for a long time.

Women and men have different types of pheromones, the intensity of which increases during periods of abstinence, good mood, etc.

Eye contact

Another theory suggests that people are attracted to each other by a gaze. In the animal kingdom, the latter is a signal of danger, awakening a zone in the brain that decides to approach the object or move away. A person perceives this shake-up as a state of love.

Sometimes it is not easy to interpret sign language, but there are some patterns that play a key role in situations of attraction. Eye contact: Should not be excessive because it can be intimidating, but show interest with a little play of glances. The way of looking also says a lot about contact and emotion, just as they claim that pupils expand to what they like. Smiling is a sign of interest and usually attracts the other person because it shows closeness and happiness. There are many types of smiles, some of which are inciting, while others are harsher, learning to differentiate them! Physical Contact: This increases greater intimacy with the person we touch. Gentle physical contact, sometimes spontaneous or even unwanted, can be the start of something else. When a person crosses his arms over a chest, it may happen that he is cold or that he is defending himself unconsciously, this can also give rise to the feeling that he is closed and not ready.

It is important not to take the above as if they were 10 commandments and were evaluating the whole thing.

This assumption is supported by a study by American scientists, where they asked the subjects to look into the eyes of the interlocutor. On closer inspection, many noted the emergence of pleasant feelings for the counterpart.

Why attracts people: psychology

At one time, the founder of modern psychology, Z. Freud, tested in his own practice the assumption that a girl is subconsciously drawn to a man who resembles her own father, and young men are drawn to a girl who is similar (psychologically) to her mother.

Physical cues can be conflicting because not everything is cause and effect, and it is important for good interpretation to jointly evaluate the verbal with the non-verbal. When it comes to body language of attraction, we have to distinguish between two important factors: the position of the echo, which is when the other person takes the same position as one, and the movement of the echo, when the other person copies the movement of one.

Study: Analysis of Body Language Attraction

These two aspects would be important as the researchers assume that the individual movements are not important, but the patterns of movement, as these will be the ones that tell us the story of attraction between two people. There has been a lot of research on body language related to attraction to see what signs it might show.