DONKEY TRAINING Eastern parable Once upon a time there was a man who had a wonderful donkey. The owner loved his donkey very much and tried to educate him, but he did not obey at all. Man has tried all kinds of oats as a reward, but to no avail.

MORE TRYING Eastern parable A certain student attended the lectures of one teacher for several years without making any attempt to learn. Finally, the teacher invited him for a private conversation. “Over the years, I have given you exercises and instructions, but I do not see that

EXTREME Eastern parable The elder reproached the young monk: `` At your age, I worked ten hours a day, and spent ten more hours in prayer. '' The young monk replied: `` I admire your youthful zeal, father, but I admire your maturity even more, thanks to

FATE Eastern parable Someone asked the Teacher what fate is. Master replied, “What you often call 'destiny' is really an assumption. You just assume that something good or bad is about to happen. And here is what happens in

STRAIGHT LINE Eastern parable Once King Akbar drew a straight line and asked his ministers: "How to make this line shorter without touching it?" Birbal, considered the wisest man in the state, came up and drew another line next to it, but longer.

ADVICE OF THE WISE Eastern parable Many people came to one Teacher with books that they had read and wanted to receive commentary on them, or with books that they wrote and would like to hear an opinion about them, or with books brought in for some other reason.

NEEDLE SEARCH An Eastern Parable One evening an old woman was looking for something in the street in front of her house. People gathered around her and asked what she was looking for. “I lost my needle,” the woman replied. Everyone began to help her look for a needle. “The street is so big, but the needle

BEES AND FLIES Eastern Parable Once a wise elder was asked: - Why are some people good and pious, while others are evil and immoral? The sage replied: - I learned from experience that in this life there are two extreme categories of people. One category is like a fly. The fly has

THREE WAYS OF OFFENSE Eastern parable In the East there lived a wise man who taught his disciples in this way: - People insult in three ways. They can say that you are stupid, they can call you a slave, they can call you mediocre. If this happened to you, remember the simple

THE ART OF NOT ARGUMENTING Eastern Parable In a mountain village there lived a man known for never arguing with anyone. Once a correspondent came to him to interview him and write an article for the newspaper. The following conversation took place between them: - Tell me, and this

BE YOUR LIKE Eastern parable - Could you tell me what time it is? - It's three o'clock. - But now it can't be more than half past three! - Well, be

THE DIFFERENCE IN THE USE OF A CHICKEN AND PIG Eastern Parable An old monk collected charity for the poor. He came to one rich man, but he wanted to get away with only a small donation. “Others, who are much poorer than you, gave much more,” he hinted

GOLD IN THE GARDEN Eastern parable One curmudgeon hid gold under a tree in the garden. Every week he pulled out his treasure and admired it for hours. Soon the gold was stolen. When the owner did not find gold, he began to scream loudly. The neighbors came running. When they found out what was the matter, someone

ANGER AND NAILS Eastern Parable One emperor had a very hot-tempered and unrestrained son. Worried about how in the future such an heir would be able to manage his possessions, he turned to a Zen teacher for help. The teacher took the young man to teach, and after

I WOULD CHANGE MYSELF Eastern parable The robber, sure that the whole world is a reflection of himself, decided to test the old monk and asked: - If the most beautiful of all harlots came here now, you would be able not to think about how good she is and seductive? - No. But I

One eastern ruler had a terrible dream, as if all his teeth fell out one by one. In great excitement, he called the interpreter of dreams to him. He listened to him with concern and said:

Lord, I must tell you the sad news. You will lose one by one all your loved ones.

These words aroused the wrath of the sovereign. He ordered that the unfortunate man be thrown into prison and called for another interpreter, who, after listening to the dream, said:

I am happy to tell you the good news - you will outlive all your relatives.

The Sovereign was delighted and generously rewarded him for this prediction. The courtiers were very surprised.

After all, you told him the same thing that your poor predecessor did, so why was he punished and you rewarded? they asked.

To which the answer came:

We both interpreted the dream in the same way. But it all depends on what to say, but as to tell.

For effective communication between the teacher and the parents, conscious use of tactical techniques.

Correct handling.

First of all, you need to choose optimal shape treatment, since it is the beginning of a conversation that can affect the success of communication. Most likely, the teacher will greet the parents with the words "good afternoon", "hello", "glad to see you", etc. Very often teachers, especially educators kindergarten, they ask, is it possible to call the parents with whom they have developed good relations, by "you". And although there are no strict prohibitions on this score, the ethics of pedagogical communication still prescribes certain restrictions. It is better to call parents, at least within the walls of a kindergarten or school, by their first name and patronymic (and not just by their first name) and by “you”, even if you know them well. The "you" form is more neutral, so its use will make it possible to be less dependent on the interlocutor and, if necessary, provide information that is not the most pleasant for him, without experiencing inconvenience.

If the teacher has difficulty remembering names, then it is recommended to make a list of the names and patronymics of all parents and keep it in a conspicuous place, for example, under glass on a desk or on a door. In addition, there are special techniques for memorizing first and last names. One of them is to try to repeat the name of the interlocutor in the very first minutes of communication when meeting each other (you can several times).

When preparing for a speech in front of a group of parents, it is also important for the teacher to think over the form of appeal in advance. It would be inappropriate to call the parents attending the parent-teacher conference "friends" or "dear ones." And although this fact is known to everyone, often at parent meetings, which, as a rule, only mothers are present, such addresses as "girls", "mothers", "ladies", etc. are heard.

It is obvious that the teacher, when addressing the parents of pupils' pupils, must show due respect and attention.

2. A bright start. In order to involve a communication partner in contact, it is necessary to make the very first minutes surprising, unexpected, bright. Do not start with comments or criticism - it is better to create a positive emotional attitude at first. It could be something from life, something unexpected, an interesting question. OL: through the mouth of a baby.

The information is necessary and understandable.

Of course, in order for the interlocutor to be interested in communicating with you, you need to have the information he needs. But it is also necessary to have sufficient vocabularyotherwise you run the risk of simply being misunderstood. Moreover, the ability to use synonyms and antonyms in speech, the ability to build sentences is of great importance. Avoid using professional words and phrases when talking to parents.... If you consider it necessary, then, pronouncing, perhaps, unfamiliar terms for them, immediately, without a pause, give a definition of the concept. This method will help your parents understand you exactly. In addition, such tactics help to increase the self-esteem of moms and dads (and especially older people, who sometimes find it difficult to keep abreast of modern changes in the language), as well as to establish contact, equal communication.

Serious preparation is required - to know the material well.